Side Bitch Antics

he doesn’t spend time with you

y’all are never seen in public together

he only hits your phone Friday-Sunday

you tweet him and he texts back

he only comes over after 12am

you’ve never seen where he lives

the only place y’all have been too is a drive thru

he doesn’t kiss you unless he trying to have sex with you

you don’t know his friends

you’re relationship tends to be only physical

you ask him about the future and he says “Idek what ima wear tomorrow”

he constantly tells you things that he’s already told you

he walks past you in public and then texts you and asks “where are you?”

he gives you the best friend title

he doesn’t care if you talk about the other boys you talk too

his favorite line is "I'm chillin"

Know your place 

B.

Is It Yours?

Never get attached to what’s not rightfully yours. If boundaries haven’t been established, NEVER assume that you are the only one. Y’all text all day and all night? That’s cute. He’s calling someone else too. You spend all day with him? He’s probably spending the night with another girl. Until you have that conversation, this is the mentality you need to keep. Never make him the only one if you’re not the only one in his life. Don’t make sacrifices if he’s not making the same for you. Don’t become a side piece that he only has time for when his main girl is busy. Don’t give him your relationship privileges while he’s giving someone else his.  And BEYOND all, stand for your morals. You may like him but you compromise everything you want to be when you give him exactly what he wants. You have to be honest with yourself. Sometimes we hurt ourselves by not realizing all the signs that are in front of us.

We've all been through this at one point and time. You like someone then you start imagining everything that you two could be. You put in all this time and energy into trying to make him fall for you. You get mad when you see him with other girls (but you know not to say anything). You do things out of the ordinary for him. You treat him like he’s already yours. And in the end, it’s you that feels like you lost something. You feel like you lost apart of you that was never really there. You miss someone you never had to begin with. The hurt, pain, and insecurities can all be avoided. You just have to know what’s rightfully yours and what’s not. 

B.

Thoughts

Being in love is a powerful feeling. It takes over your mind, your body, and your spirit. All of a sudden all they're all you think about, all you feign for, and you smile at the very thought of them. & when you look at each other, you can’t help but smile. Falling in love doesn't happen overnight. To fall in love with someone you learn to love everything about them, even the things you hate. It’s a process; you grow to be best friends. You’re there for each other but not because it’s expected but because you want to be. When they’re hurt, you feel every ounce of pain that they’re feeling. There’s a difference between loving someone and wanting to never leave someone. When you’re in love you don’t see a life without them, you can’t picture life without them by your side. Don’t mistake being in love for having love. Everyone wants to be in love but they don’t realize that you can’t fall in love with every person that comes into your life. Yes, everything happens for a reason but love doesn't change like the seasons. 

B.

Miss On Her Own

Independence is a powerful quality in a woman. It proves that she doesn't need you or anybody else to get to where she wants to be. Independence is also a quality most women lack. They feel the need for male attention and approval. Women like this don’t understand that we hold all the power. We create the forthcoming generations. We provide and make-up the family. Without us, where would our male counterparts be? Independence is demanding. We need to learn that we cannot hold a man down if we cannot hold ourselves up. We need to be happy with ourselves before we can even imagine making another happy. Independence is sexy. Don’t do it for him, do it for yourself. Do it because you have never looked so good alone. Independence is strong. Never do we need another to justify our purpose. We know what we have to do and we won’t stop until it’s done. Independence is gold. Never let a man help you off your throne.

B.

Name Drop

It all started with C

I loved him and he loved me

But we were only in 7^th grade, we had no idea what our love could be.

Then came S

Our love was always like a test

We would always break up and make up

But from you I learned to never give up

I knew we were going too self-destruct

And over the years we’ve tried to reconstruct

But oddly it was a friendship we developed

What can I say about K?

In your mind, it was you I needed to obey

In public it was love that was always on display

But behind closed doors we seemed to go astray

In the end you started to betray

So I decided not to stay

Don’t get me started on T

All my friends tried to get me to see

That me and he were never meant to be

I was so happy to be his “she”

That I never could see that all he was doing was hurting me

But I broke free and now it’s you that wants thee

To a degree, I still find myself going back and forth with D

You were the one that got down on one knee

You wanted to marry me when I was only 19

If my heart had a lock, it was you that held the key

But you hurt me when we were almost at year number three

So now I’m free

See there are boys that try to connect

But none of them have stepped correct

They all reflect images of my past

And those are all ACTORS that I would never recast

I’m learning that if you force love it will never be

Love is a beautiful feeling that happens spontaneously

I devote myself to love with every part of me

Truthfully, I’ve never loved love more because it’s just

Me, myself & B.

 I have been through the worst of break-ups. But every break-up makes every hello that much more meaningful. It’s safe to say that I’ve finally said hello to myself and that I’m focused on doing what makes me happy. No more do I have time to compete with other girls or settle for less than what I deserve. I’ll be 20 soon and I’m too busy building an empire. If you don’t hear what I’m saying you and me will never be. 

B.

Dear Cally

My first love. 
We always hear about these things happening but never close to home. Although I cant claim credit for being there because it's been 7 years since I've even heard your voice. But this pain still hits close to home. You taught me how to care and how to love selflessly. You shaped the way I'll love someone for the rest of my life without even knowing it. My first kiss. I'll never forget that day. We were in your living room and you asked if I was ready. I shrugged my shoulders as the shy girl I am. Then your lips touched mine. I was thinking about your lips for the rest of that year. I looked up to you. I just wanted your attention. Your love. Your affection. You went away too soon. You went before I could even appreciate everything you meant to me. I really just want to say thank-you; you're a reason why I am who I am today. It's crazy how young were were. Stressing and having real ass arguments. lol. I never thought I would see you again. But I wish it didn't take you leaving this earth for me to realize that I owed you this. Sleep in peace baby, until we meet again.

B.

Let me prove it to you

I want you to notice me

I want to be the girl that changes you

That makes you want to become a better you

In other words I just want to better you

To be the one that can take care of you

From the first day I saw you

I saw me loving you

I saw me on top of you

Putting it down like you know I can do

But I don’t want it to seem like I’m rushing you

I respect your space and everything else that comes with you

Like those other girls that want you

They might have been there first but they don’t look as good as me and you

So tell me, what I gotta do to prove to you

I’m not like all those other girls that be on you

I wanna make this promise to you

If you ever give me the chance to love you

I promise to give the whole world to you

B.